Friday, April 2, 2010

Best life changing quotes by Shantaram aka Gregory David Roberts

I am great fan of writing of Gregory David Roberts. Recently I have came across a collection of his best quotes. All quotes have deep down meaning. 


Shantaram is the 2003 novel written by Gregory David Roberts, a convicted Australian bank robber and heroin addict who escaped from Pentridge Prison and fled to India where he lived for 10 years.


  • I was a revolutionary who lost his ideals in heroin, a philosopher who lost his integrity in crime, and a poet who lost his soul in a maximum security prison. When I escaped from that prison, over the front wall, between two gun towers, I became my country’s most wanted man. Luck ran with me and flew with me to India, where I joined the Bombay mafia. I worked as a gunrunner, a smuggler, and a counterfeiter. I was chained on three continents, beaten, stabbed and starved. I went to war. I ran into the enemy guns. And I survived, while other men around me died. They were better men than I am, most of them; better men whose lives were crunched up in mistakes, and thrown away by the wrong second of someone else’s hate, or love, or indifference. And I buried them, too many of those men, and grieved their stories and their lives into my own.
  • I was going through deep and silent water. Nothing and no-one could make me happy. Nothing and no-one could make me sad. I was tough. Which is probably the saddest thing you can say about a man.
  • There's a truth deeper than experience. It's beyond what we see, or even what we feel. It's an order of truth that separates the profound from the merely clever, and the reality from the perception. We're helpless, usually, in the face of it; and the cost of knowing it, like the cost of knowing love, is sometimes greater than any heart would willingly pay. It doesn't always help us to love the world, but it does prevent us from hating the world. And the only way to know that truth is to share it, from heart to heart, just as Prabhakar told it to me, just as I'm telling it to you now.
  • Loves are like that. You heart starts to feel like an overcrowded lifeboat. You throw your pride out to keep it afloat, and your self-respect and independence. After a while, you started throwing people out - your friends and everyone you used to know. And it's still not enough. The lifeboat is still sinking, and you know it's going to take down with it. I've seen that happen to a lot of girls. That's why I'm sick of Love.
  • Indians are the Italians of Asia and vice versa. Every man in both countries is a singer when he is happy, and every woman is a dancer when she walks to the shop at the corner. For them, food is the music inside the body and music is the food inside the heart. Amore or Pyar makes every man a poet, a princess of peasant girl if only for second eyes of man and woman meets.
  • I stood in the harsh electric light of that new tunnel, in Bombay's Arthur Road Prison, and I wanted to laugh. Hey guys, I wanted to say, can't you be a little more original? But I couldn't speak. Fear dries a man's mouth, and hate strangles him. That's why hate has no great literature: real fear and real hate have no words.
  • Fate gives all of us three teachers, three friends, three enemies, and three great loves in our lives. But these twelve are always disguised, and we can never know which one is which until we've loved them, left them, or fought them.
  • That's how we keep this crazy place together - with the heart.... India is the heart. It's the heart that keeps us together. There's no place with people, like my people, Lin. There's no heart like the INDIAN HEART.
  • It took me a long time and most of the world to learn what I know about love and fate and the choices we make, but the heart of it came to me in an instant, while I was chained to a wall and being tortured. I realized, somehow, through the screaming in my mind, that even in that shackled, bloody helplessness, I was still free: free to hate the men who were torturing me, or to forgive them. It doesn't sound like much, I know. But in the flinch and bite of the chain, when its all you have got, that freedom is a universe of possibility. And the choice you make, between hating and forgiving,can become the story of your life.
  • I know now that it's the sweet, sweating smell of hope, which is the opposite of hate; and its a sour, stifled smell of greed, which is the opposite of love.
  • The past reflects eternally between two mirrors - the bright mirror of words and deeds, and the dark one, full of things we didn't do or say.
  • One of the reasons why we crave love, & seek it so desperately, is that love is the only cure for loneliness, & shame, & sorrow. But some feelings sink so deep into the heart that only loneliness can help you find them again. Some truths about yourself are so painful that only shame can help you live with them. And some things are just so sad that only your soul can do the crying for you.
  • Sometimes we love with nothing more than hope. Sometimes we cry with everything except tears. In the end that's all there is. Love & its duty, sorrow & its truth. In the end that's all we have - to hold on tight until the dawn.
  • The difference between news and gossip-News tells you what people did, gossip tells you how much they enjoyed it.
  • Every day, when you are on the run, is the whole of your life. Every free minute is a short story with a happy ending.
  • If fate doesn't make you laugh, then you don't get the joke.
  • Nothing grieves more deeply or pathetically than one half of a great love that isn’t meant to be.
  • It’s a characteristic of human nature that the best qualities, called up quickly in a crisis, are very often the hardest to find in a prosperous calm.
  • One of the ironies of courage, and the reason why we prize it so highly, is that we find it easier to be brave for someone else than we do for ourselves alone.
  • Lovers find their way by insights and confidences; they are the stars they use to navigate the ocean of desire. And the brightest of those stars are the heartbreaks and sorrows. The most precious gift you can bring to your lover is your suffering.
  • There’s no meanness too spiteful or too cruel, when we hate someone for all the wrong reasons.
  • The sane man is simply a better liar than an insane man.
  • Fate’s way of beating us in a fair fight is to give us warnings that we hear, but never heed.
  • The truth is that there are no good men, or bad men,' he said, 'It is the deeds that have goodness or badness in them. There are good deeds and there are bad deeds. Men are just men —it is what they do, or refuse to do, that links them to good or evil. The truth is that an instant of real love, in the heart of anyone —the noblest of man alive or the most wicked— has the whole purpose and process and meaning of life within the lotus-folds of its passion. The truth is that we are all, every one of us, every atom, every galaxy, and every particle of matter in the universe, moving toward God.
  • Guilt is the hilt of the knife that we use on ourselves, and love is often the blade;but its worry that keeps the knife sharp, and worry that gets most of us, in the end.
  • If you make your heart into a weapon, you always end up using it on yourself.
  • Despotism despises nothing so much as righteousness in its victims.
  • At first, when we truly love someone, our greatest fear is that the loved one will stop loving us. What we should fear and dread instead is that we won't stop loving them, even after they are dead and gone.
  • A dream is a place where a wish and a fear meet. When the wish and fear are exactly the same, we call the dream a nightmare.
  • Men reveal what they think when they look away, and what they feel when they hesitate. With women, it’s the other way around.
  • Happiness is a myth, which was invented to make us buy things.
  • The lies we tell ourselves are the ghosts that haunt the empty house of midnight.
  • We know that crying is a good and natural thing. We know that crying isn't a weakness, but a kind of strength. Still, the weeping rips us root by tangled root from the earth, and we crash like fallen trees when we cry.
  • A good man is as strong as the right woman needs him to be.
  • Anything that can be put in a nutshell should remain there.
  • Fate always gives you two choices, the one you should take, and the one you do.
  • The cloak of the past is cut from patches of feeling, and sewn with rebus threads. Most of the time, the best we can do is wrap it around ourselves for comfort or drag it behind us as we struggle to go on.
Sometimes we see the past so clearly, and read the legend of its parts with such acuity, that every stitch of time reveals its purpose, and the kind of message enfolded in it.
  • There is no man, and no place, without a war. The only thing we can do is choose a side, and fight. That is the only choice we get - who we fight for, who we fight against. That is life.
  • Luck is what happens to you when fate gets tired of waiting.
  • Nothing in any life, no matter how well or poorly lived, is wiser than failure or clearer than sorrow.
  • You are not a man until you give your love, truly and freely to a child. And you are not a good man until you earn the love, truly and freely, of a child in return”
  • Being in love we often pay no attention whatsoever to the substance of what lover says, while being intoxicated to ecstasy by the way its said”
  • "Be true to love where ever you find it, and be true to yourself and everything that you really are."
  • The truth is a bully we all pretend to like.
  • “We all strive to do one good thing to balance all the wrong that we have done in the past”
  • There's no believing in God...We either know God, or we don't.
  • Sometimes, you have to surrender before you win
  • "Silence is the tortured mans revenge."
  • "Nobody is ever naked in India. And especially, nobody is naked without clothes.
    So...how do you take a shower?
    By wearing the over-underpants over underpants."
  • "Some of the worst wrongs, were caused by people who tried to change things."
  • For this is what we do. Put one foot forward and then the other. Lift our eyes to the snarl and smile of the world once more. Think. Act. feel. Add our little consequence to the tides of good and evil that flood and drain the world. Drag our shadowed crosses into the hope of another night. Push our brave hearts into the promise of a new day. With love: the passionate search for truth other than our own. With longing: the pure, ineffable yearning to be saved. For so long as fate keeps waiting, we live on. God help us. God forgive us. We live on.
  • The fully mature man, has about two seconds left to live.
  • "Civilization, after all, is defined by what we forbid, more than what we permit."
  • Optimism is the first cousin of love, and its exactly like love in three ways; its pushy, it has no real sense of humor and it turns up where you least expect it.
  • The real trick in life is to want nothing, and to succeed in getting it.
  • People always hurt us with their trust. The surest way to hurt someone you like is to put all your trust in him.”
  • "Khaled, my first teacher, was the kind of man who carried his past in the temple fires of his eyes, and fed the flames with pieces of his broken heart. I've known men like Khaled in prisons, on battlefields, and in the dens where smugglers, mercenaries, and other exiles meet. They all have certain characteristics in common. They're tough, because there's a kind of toughness that's found in the worst sorrow. They're honest, because the truth of what happened to them won't let them lie. They're angry, because they can't forget the past or forgive it. And they're lonely. Most of us pretend, with greater or lesser success, that the minute we live in is something we can share. But the past for ever one of us is a desert island; and those like Khaled, who find themselves marooned there, are always alone" ~page 443 - 444
  • Dream is the place where a wish and a fear meet. When the wish and the fear are exactly the same, we call the dream a nightmare.
  • It’s a fact of life on run that you often love more people than you trust. For people in the safe world, of course, exactly the opposite is true. - Lin
  • Discipline and abstraction of putting my life into words, every day, helped me to cope with shame and its first cousin, despair. - Lin
  • Mistakes are like bad loves, the more you learn from them, the more you wish they’d never happened.
  • Prison systems are like black holes for human bodies: no light escapes from them, and no news.
  • Prisons are the temples where devils learn to pray. Every time we turn the key we twist the knife of fate, because every time we cage a man we close him in with fate.
  • Cruelty is a kind of cowardice. Cruel laughter is the way cowards cry they are not alone, and causing pain is how they grieve.
Courtesy :- Wikipedia

Saturday, March 27, 2010

Does it take a lot to give words of encouragement to people you love even though you might not fully understand or accept them?

10 Rules to remind ourselves on how we should treat our loved ones:

Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom.
~ Theodore Isaac Rubin


1. Remember this - our faith and beliefs can move mountains. So believe and have faith in them because we will help them to move their mountains.

2. When we find them deciding or acting on things that are probably going to be some sort of mistakes, do NOT find 10 things out of the situation to prove we are right, find just 1 thing to prove we can be wrong and stick to that only.

3. Prepare to support and give them a shoulder to cry on when they really fail. Do not feel it is right to retract that because they have not follow our advices.

4. If we feel the urge to say something that sound like “I told you so…” – bite our tongues and just keep that to ourselves. FOREVER.

5. Don’t force our opinion and judgment on them most of the times. We have the right to say what we feel and think but those are just our feelings and opinions, NOT theirs.

6. Remember this – even though we are the more experienced, older and/or smarter people, accept that we may also be wrong sometimes. To Err Is Human.

7. Remember what Peter Drucker said “If You Keep Doing What Worked in the Past You’re Going to Fail” – so do not expect others (especially our children) to follow what we have done last times even though we have proven records of success.

8. Always stand by them, even though when they are wrong sometimes. They need us to be their loved one, NOT the judge, NOT the police officer, NOT the priest and NOT the executor. Everyone will be judged by God eventually.

9. Remember that our loved ones have their other loved ones as well – for e.g. our partner has other loved ones like parents, siblings, friends, relatives, mentors, etc; our parent has other loved ones like their parents, their other children and grand children. It is a very complex relationship. Be understanding and do not demand and measure amount of love and attention among each others and do not criticize and reject the loved ones of our loved ones (sound complex, I know).

10. Love them for who they are, not who we want them to be.

Friday, March 26, 2010

Life's Audit: Crimson dawn of peace

Life's Audit: Crimson dawn of peace

Crimson dawn of peace

Crimson Dawn of Peace

Crimson torches light the sky
The dawn breaks in the East
One alone upon the blazing Earth
Raises the flag of peace
Now marching forth to the call
Come the pure and the truth
We rise from deep within the Earth
To deepen the rainbow’s blue

On golden wings we fly
Man’s dark night to cease
The Crimson Sun reveals the sky
The Crimson Dawn of Peace

Drums of peace awakes the Earth
The bells ring in the day
Golden youth upon the Mentor’s road
Opening up the way
To the peak! To the horizon
Our bright song to share
We rise undaunted by the storms
With mankind’s deepest prayer

Brilliant days are now begun
For all life we vow
To grow in faith and reach the universe
Kosen-Rufu now!
We’ll protect now and forever
Our castle of peace
Our joyful faith ignites the sky
The Crimson Dawn of Peace

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Having 'Peace of Mind' is not a strenuous job; it is an effortless process!

Once Buddha was walking from one town to another town with a few of his followers. This was in the initial days. While they were traveling, they happened to pass a lake. They stopped there and Buddha told one of his disciples, "I am thirsty. Do get me some water from that lake there."

The disciple walked up to the lake. When he reached it, he noticed that right at that moment, a bullock cart started crossing through the lake. As a result, the water became very muddy, very turbid. The disciple thought, "How can I give this muddy water to Buddha to drink!"

So he came back and told Buddha, "The water in there is very muddy. I don't think it is fit to drink." After about half an hour, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back to the lake and get him some water to drink. The disciple obediently went back to the lake.

This time too he found that the lake was muddy. He returned and informed Buddha about the same.
After sometime, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back.

The disciple reached the lake to find the lake absolutely clean and clear with pure water in it. The mud had settled down and the water above it looked fit to be had. So he collected some water in a pot and brought it to Buddha.

Buddha looked at the water, and then he looked up at the disciple and said," See what you did to make the water clean. You let it be.... And the mud settled down on its own - and you got clear water.

Your mind is also like that! When it is disturbed, just let it be. Give it a little time. It will settle down on its own. You don't have to put in any effort to calm it down. It will happen. It is effortless.."

What did Buddha emphasize here?
He said, "It is effortless."
Having 'Peace of Mind' is not a strenuous job; it is an effortless process!

Sunday, March 21, 2010

Have Hope, You Shall Be Healed


By Anil Amar

Hope entices us with a promise that sustains when all else is gone. It's inherent and innate, and generates courage to continue on a path we cannot see. Nurturing hope in our hearts reminds us, that things can and will get better. Hope unlocks the stranglehold of fear, frustration and uncertainty.

Dr Henry Viscardi was born without legs. He spent his first seven years as a charity patient in a hospital. He struggled as a severely crippled child and as a horribly deformed young man. The world was unkind, heaping challenges upon him — a legless man in a body 3 feet 8 inches tall! He survived because he refused to succumb to hopelessness. He held strongly onto his belief that all life must have a purpose — and that at the right time, his would be revealed.

At age 27, he got fitted with artificial legs. Suddenly a whole new world opened to him — his life was transformed. He began helping disabled veterans at a hospital during the World War II.

He married the woman of his dreams, and together they had four daughters. Dr Viscardi founded the Long Island Human Resources Centre for the Disabled. He transformed adversity into opportunity, teaching thousands of physically challenged people to have faith and belief — in themselves and in their potential.

In a speech he said, "Hope is a duty, not a luxury. To hope is not to dream - but to turn dreams into reality. Blessed are those who dream dreams, and are willing to pay the price to make them come true. As for me, I do not choose to be a common man. It is my right to be uncommon. I seek opportunity, not security. I want to dream and to build, to fall and to succeed. It is my heritage to stand erect, proud and unafraid to think and act for myself. I have a wish for you. I suppose the conventional thing for me to do, would be to wish you success and happiness for the rest of your lives. But success and happiness, as the world measures it, is too easy. I wish you meaning — for all the remaining years of your life."

Life isn't easy — there are no guarantees. It is a series of challenges, some bigger than others, all of which we must face. Seemingly unconquerable at times, obstacles are often just detours we have to take, to meet our ultimate goals. No matter what adversity we face, we must believe it is conquerable, and that we will emerge stronger because of it.

As a child, Suzy could not learn to read and write. Doctors said she was retarded. Growing up, she became unmanageable, and was sentenced to two years in a reformatory. She worked hard to overcome her inabilities for 15 hours a day. Her huge efforts paid off when she earned her high school diploma. She emerged from the reformatory a changed person with dreams. But misfortune lay in wait as she suffered a stroke, resulting in erasing her ability to read and write. She was financially untenable. To make matters worse, she became pregnant without benefit of marriage. With help and support from her father, Suzy fought back from the depths of her tortured life.

In order to proceed with her life, she reasoned that, despite her unfortunate situation, she was still the person she had always been; that her life wasn't over - it had just become different. She noticed that many couldn't see beyond their adversity-shattered lives, and see that their futures were still bright. She wondered why people allowed their existing realities to obscure their possibilities. The ability to re-look at and re-create goals is a matter of faith and hope — involving self-worth, the ability to adjust to life's many changes, and finding fresh ways to tackle problems. It's based on self-respect and knowledge that one's past experiences have helped make us the unique person we are.

She started taking courses at a community college. On completion, she applied to and was accepted by the State Medical School to study medicine. Suzy became a doctor — healing others — an eloquent testimony to her faith, hope, self-belief and perseverance. Hope and faith go hand in hand. Have you ever been at the end of your rope with nothing to hold onto - but hope? If you didn't have faith, you'd have crashed to the ground. Hope gives us the courage to hang on, while faith gives us the belief that if we can hang on with hope, help will come. To make hope come home to roost, we need to find that faith inside us — which tells us where hope is.

Saturday, March 20, 2010

Using Faith To Banish Fear

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself." ~ Franklin D Roosevelt

Abully often beat up Ben, who lived in a state of constant fear, defeat and self-loathing.

Ben's teacher encouraged him to read books about heroes and champions. Ben did so, visualizing himself as the heroes he read about, even dreaming about it at night.

One day, when going home he saw the bully waiting for him. Ben panicked and started to run - then, remembering his resolve, he stopped and returned with clenched teeth.

Ben fought with determined ferocity. The surprised bully lost his appetite for the fight — and ran away.

Ben hurt all over, but it was worth it! It was a great day in Ben's life — he'd overcome his life-consuming fear, lack of self-esteem and the defeat in his heart, and had found - self-respect.

He hadn't become physically stronger, but the equation had changed. Actually, the only difference was that a new Ben had emerged from within - one with faith in himself! Because he had taken a stand - in the face of fear - that he would no longer be pushed around, he had transcended his usual self, and emerged an unbeatable winner. His determination that he would run no more, no matter what - had wrought a change from deep within his life.

Man is a mix of opposites. While he has within him a touch of divinity, he also has an equal mix of the not so divine. How much of each is manifested, is a choice he makes from moment to moment, depending upon his life condition. In every aspect of life, too, we find ourselves faced with an array of opposites. One set of opposites that is most meaningful, is faith and fear. Being opposites, they can't co-exist. The degree to which we lack faith - is the degree to which we are vulnerable to fear. Generally, we are a mass of fears - so much so, that it is a wonder that we can get past all of them to accomplish anything. We remain imprisoned by our fears, worries, doubts and anxieties. For instance, we fear being alone, fear people's opinions, the dark, the future, change, failure, rejection, pain, truth, life, death, growing old, etc., etc.

Fear has its genesis in the fact that our faith in whatever belief system we profess, is not unshakable, and that we lack faith - in ourselves, in our purpose in life, and in our ability to move our lives to its fruition. When things start to go wrong and beyond our control, our faith becomes shaky. This allows doubt to begin gnawing at our mind - and, that permits fears to take root in our life. Fear comes from the feeling that we are puny, powerless and helpless. When we belittle ourselves, we experience a total lack of control, and deny the greatness, the power — the divinity we inherently possess.

Failure undermines our self-confidence, and repeated setbacks create a pattern in our lives, leading us to plant seeds of doubt in our own abilities. This handicaps us till we reach the point when we render ourselves incapable of dealing with most of our own issues effectively and satisfactorily. Taken a step further, since everything is psychosomatic, our fearful mind manifests as illness and disease in our body. It's hard to trust someone or something when danger threatens and everything seems to be collapsing around us. Fear comes to us more easily than faith. If fear can banish faith, so too, must faith be able to banish fear. A pendulum swings on both sides. Faith isn't pretending that our problems don't exist, nor is it simply blind optimism. Faith takes us beyond our problems to the hope and strength we need to nurture our lives with.

My mentor, Daisaku Ikeda, teaches, "So long as we are alive, we are bound to experience various fears and worries. These are like clouds that block the light of the sun. Regardless of appearances, the sun rises with the same majesty even when it is raining or windy. So long as the sun of faith in one's heart continues to blaze, one's life will shine with happiness."

Everything has value — even failure! In life, nothing is wasted. Everything has a purpose - a lesson to teach. Fear, too, has its positive aspect. If we didn't fear danger; our lives would be in constant peril. A small child must be taught to fear the traffic on the roads or electrical household gadgets. Fear of accidents makes us cautious in our daily chores. We need not fear fear — we need to respect it, use it, and befriend it.